The Power of Play: How Playing Regulates a Child’s Nervous System

How Play Regulates the Nervous System

Play isn’t just a “break” from learning; it is the learning. And more than that, it’s regulation in action. Here’s how:

1. Movement Releases Stress

Play often involves movement, running, dancing, climbing, or building, which activates the body’s natural stress-release systems. Movement helps complete stress cycles that would otherwise stay stuck, keeping the child in a dysregulated state.

2. Imagination Creates Neural Flexibility

When children engage in imaginative play, pretending to be superheroes, animals, or explorers, they are building new neural pathways, developing flexible thinking, and rehearsing emotional scenarios in a safe, low-stakes environment. Imagination is where the brain experiments with safety, roles, and emotional expression.

3. Play Builds Co-regulation and Connection

When adults or peers join in play with attuned presence, the child’s nervous system receives the ultimate message: I am seen, safe, and connected. This co-regulation builds a strong internal template for future self-regulation.

4. Sensory Play Calms the Brain

Play that engages the senses, such as sand, water, playdough, and various textures, stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting calmness and presence. These activities ground children in their bodies, especially those who are easily overwhelmed.

The Role of Play Therapy

Play Therapy is a neuroscience-backed therapeutic modality that uses the natural language of play to help children process emotions, reduce anxiety, and develop emotional intelligence. A skilled play therapist tracks a child’s emotional cues and uses toys, art, role-play, and storytelling to help the child regulate.

It’s especially effective for children who:

• Are prone to anxiety or stress
• Have difficulty expressing emotions verbally
• Have experienced trauma or big transitions
• Show signs of shutdown, aggression, or clinginess