Back-to-School Wellness: A Guide for Parents
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By Shannon Mandel, Neuroscience-Informed Parenting & Child Empowerment Coach | In partnership with Vie & Santé
If you’ve ever witnessed your child explode in anger, melt down in sadness, or completely shut down when overwhelmed, you’re not alone.
These big emotional waves are not signs of a broken child or poor behaviour.
They’re signs of a developing nervous system doing its best to cope.
As a coach who works with sensitive and anxious children, I want to offer a powerful reframe:
“Big feelings aren’t the problem. It’s the lack of tools and safety that turns them into something scary.”
And that’s where we come in.
To understand your child’s meltdowns, outbursts, or shutdowns, we need to look under the hood at the nervous system and the developing brain.
When a child feels emotionally flooded, whether it’s fear, frustration, or sadness, the brain’s amygdala (the alarm system) takes over. This shuts down the logical part of the brain (the prefrontal cortex) and sends the child into a dysregulated state: fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.
This is not a choice, it’s biology.
According to Dr. Stephen Porges’ Polyvagal Theory, the nervous system is constantly scanning for safety or threat (a process called neuroception). When the brain interprets a situation as unsafe, even if it’s something as small as a rejected hug or a spilled snack, it can trigger a survival response.
Dr. Dan Siegel, author of The Whole-Brain Child, introduces a transformative concept: “Name it to tame it.”
When we help a child name their emotion, “You’re feeling really disappointed right now” or “That made you so mad”, we are doing two things:
This simple act of naming the feeling helps contain it. It gives language to the storm inside.
Many well-meaning parents respond with:
While these may be attempts to soothe, they inadvertently dismiss the child’s experience and create more dysregulation.
Instead, consider this response:
The goal is not to fix or stop the feeling; it’s to stay with your child while they feel it.
Here are three science-backed tools I teach in my coaching practice:
In the heat of emotion, the brain cannot process logic. Offer a calm presence first. Correction and guidance come after regulation.
“I’m here. Let’s take a moment together.”
✔️ Recognise the emotion
✔️ Relate through empathy and naming
✔️ Reason when the child is calm
This method (a core part of my Mindsight Method™) mirrors the brain’s developmental flow.
Have a corner or ritual your child can turn to when overwhelmed, perhaps with calming tools, sensory items, or a breathing exercise. This reinforces safety cues for the nervous system and empowers the child with a coping strategy.
When we help children navigate big feelings with safety and connection, we’re not just calming a tantrum; we’re building emotional intelligence, resilience, and lifelong brain pathways for regulation.
This is the kind of transformation that changes futures. And it all starts with how we respond in the moment.
The next time your child crumbles under the weight of their big emotions, take a breath and remind yourself:
“This is not bad behaviour. This is a nervous system in distress.”
And with your steady presence,
Your words that name what’s hard,
And your willingness to stay close…
You become the safe anchor they need to weather the storm.
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